What is miscommunication? Miscommunication is defined as when the givers’ message, the intent does not match with the receivers impact. Let me explain further. The intent is what the giver was intending to communicate. After the giver sends his message it goes through his filter of life experiences and memories and also through the other persons filter of life experiences and memories and then it goes into the receivers mind and has an impact. When the intent of the message is not matched with the impact, miscommunication happens. The miscommunication gets worse when the parties involved do not talk about what the original intent was. Good communication can happen when we begin to have conversations with our loves ones that start with, “How did you interpret that?” or “How did that make you feel?” or “Did that make sense to you?” When these words are spoken a couple can clarify what was said and whether or not the intent of the message was matched with the impact.
Try this exercise on for size with your own partner and see what you think. If you can not do it alone and feel like couples counseling could help, peruse our website for more information on getting the help you need. I look forward to your thoughts!