Merry Christmas from the Colorado Center for Healing and Change
by Kelly-Johnson - December 28th, 2009.Categories: Uncategorized.
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Long time no blog, my apologies about that. Life has been extremely busy over the past couple of months. I guess busy is a good thing, right? My husband and I went home to Minnesota to spend time with family. It has been rewarding to see family and see our first child connect with grandpa and grandma. As I look back over the last couple of months I have learned many things, one of which I would like to reflect on with you all, my readers. I have learned a lot about how my faith impacts my profession as a counselor. I love God and enjoy sharing Gods’ love and letting others know how much God loves them. I also deeply respect people’s faith and seek to understand people from all faith perspectives. As a Christian and also a counselor I often wrestle with how these two interact with one another. Yet what I have realized is that they complement one another wonderfully, more than I would have anticipated.
God loves each one of my clients deeply; I believe God gives each of his children unconditional love, which is incomprehensible and scary. As human beings we are most often given conditional love in our relationships based off of merits, performance, and conditions. As an adult, when we recieved conditional love as a child, we are afraid to admit weaknesses or faults because in our mind we interpret that as failure and a behavior that does not warrant love. So the results are constant minimization and blaming of our personal problems on others and becoming defensive of at the drop of a hat. When I can unconditionally accept and love my clients for who they are and where there at, their defenses start to come down and they can see themselves for who they really are, exposed- This is when the healing process begins. Through giving them unconditional positive regard I essentially love them like their heavenly Father does.
If you are reading this and asking the questions, how can I get help? The first step is admitting you have a problem, grieve the loss of not experiencing unconditional love, share with your loves ones how you have developed maladaptive ways of coping with that, and lastly, seek our help from a professional counselor to help you deal with this loss. Through counseling you can learn tools to reintegrate the gift of unconditional love and improve your sense of identity. This is the beauty of integrating my faith into the counseling realm, its not an artificial link in the least, it’s the real deal. We all need unconditional love, and when we don’t get it we suffer deeply. The lord does love us doesn’t he? I would love to hear your thoughts, agree or disagree, chime in!
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