Colorado Center For Healing And Change

Well, September is fast approaching.  I love the fall, there is nothing better than the crisp air, the changing leaves, apple cider, pumpkins, hoodies, and a cup of warm soup by the fire on a cool night.  As a kid, we would gather the leaves up every fall and get our mini trampoline out, and jump into the leaves, mind you our leaf pile was about 5 feet high.  Hmmm….  It puts a smile on my face just thinking about it. 

*Please note, this blog has some spiritual/religious undertones to it.  These are simply some opinions of the writer, read at your own leisure. *

For today I would like to talk about selfishness, a cultural epidemic in my opinion.   I believe by nature we are all selfish.  Now, not to sound negative here, I don’t think it is always a bad thing, our selfishness often leads to goal setting which is a good thing, but it needs to be put into perspective.   If you think you are struggling with selfishness here are 2 excellent ways to get outside of yourself and bless others.  The irony in this is that the more we bless others, the happier we are.  The more we succumb to our selfish ways, the unhappier we are.   The first step in overcoming selfishness is to admit to close friends and family that you struggle with selfishness.  Next, try on these exercises on for size and see what you think. 

Prayer

Prayer is an excellent way to get outside of yourself and bless others.  Lets say you are sick and tired of your spouses’ lazy ways, instead of nagging for them to change, try praying for them daily.  Surrender that person to God and give up control.  Because we all know that we can not change people and people have to change for themselves, surrendering that person to God is a great way to practice saying, not my will, but your will, Lord.  Often times, we think we know what is best for us better than God does.  When I have been consistent in my own prayer times, praying for my spouse, friends, family, co-workers, and my child regularly I realize that I am more content with my life and my perspective on life changes.

 Giving

Giving is also an excellent cure for selfishness; there is a scripture that states, “Where your money is your heart is”. How and what we spend our money on, shows where our priorities are.  God knows this, so he asks us in scripture to tithe on our income.  Now, I don’t think this is a legalistic number in that 10 is the magic number. However, I do think that God knows we can easily base our identity on money, which comes and goes. So through the practice of giving, we surrender some of what he has already has given us.  Through giving we are given the opportunity to break the bondage to materialism, wealth, and the “more you have the happier you will be” phenomenon.  Now, please know, I don’t think wealth is a bad thing, I think wealth can be used for a lot of good, but if our heart is solely in our wealth I think that is a sad misfortune.  Well I would love to hear your thoughts on your own journey.  How do you work through selfishness?   Well, I’m off and away for now, have a blessed day.

 Kelly Johnson

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