Family of Origin Wounds Part II

Hello!  I’ve been quite busy here the last couple weeks, so blogging has been put on the back burner:) I will get to part II of Family of Origin Wounds in this blog, but before I do that I must share a story.   Last week I was looking at my website page regarding eating disorders and there was a statement on my page that said something a long the lines of, “there are temptations all around Denver to side tract you from your weight loss goals so you must be prepared!”  When I read that I was SHOCKED!  WHAT?!  I never wrote that!  I would NEVER say that in a million years.  Food is AMAZING, food is GREAT, God gave us food for our enjoyment, not to restrict it.  How did that sentence get put in there?  Then it dawned on me, I hired an SEO company several years back and they went on my website and made changes to my content to optimize my SEO.  Word from the Wise: All Therapists, never allow SEO companies to change your content.   (or make sure you pre-approve all changes before they put it on your website.)

Anyways, more about Family of Origin Wounds, the last few blogs were just cut and pasted from a book that I was working on, but for this second part I’m going to shoot it straight from the heart because I can’t find the computer chord for my computer and I don’t have my book content to copy and paste from. (probably a good thing actually.)

So how do we heal from our family of origin wounds?   For starters, be honest about your wounds and be honest about how you have wounded others as well.  What did you need from you parents emotionally that you did not receive?  In what ways did your parents hurt your feelings growing up?  Pay attention to these answers, write a list of the painful memories that you carry, what are the questions that you wanted your parents to ask you that they never did?  Shy away from glossing over these questions.  Additionally, if you are a parent, be honest with yourself about how you have wounded your children.  When we are comfortable in our own skin, we can look at this stuff head on and we don’t feel a need to justify or minimize it.   For example, as a parent you may say; I have blessed my children by;____________________________________________.  I have hurt my children or enabled my children by; __________________________________.  The more you can be open about this stuff, the more it will help YOU to heal from your own family of origin wounds.

There are many excellent books on this topic, for a list of some of the books I would recommend please click on the link here.   Also, if you read the book “Toxic Parents” and think to yourself, “Wow, I am a toxic parent!”  I want you to know that wounded people, wound other people.  So if you are a Toxic Parent, please give yourself some love because more than likely your parent(s) were a toxic parent as well.  BTW, just because your a toxic parent does NOT mean that you don’t LOVE your child very much, it just means that you can be toxic in how you parent and you need to learn some skills and tools to help you to become a better parent.  🙂  An INCREDIBLE parent is a parent that recognizes their toxic as a parent and get’s help.

As I am wrapping up here, its time to share with you another “Gluten Free 5 ingredient or Less Recipe” So here is a recipe for a copy cat cilantro rice recipe.  (Because cilantro rice at Chipotle is simply A-M-A-Z-I-N-G!

 

Warm Regards,

Kelly Johnson, MA, LPC

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Making Sense of Family of Origin Wounds

So, if you had a wonderful childhood, you may want to skip this blog.   But if you didn’t, please read on.   🙂

What defines your identity?

Growing up, most of us defined our identity by our popularity status, academic achievements, sports awards, who we dated, and most importantly, most of us define our identity by what our parents told us about who we are or perhaps what they did not tell us about who we are.

Most of us associate our sense of identity by what we had done, not by who we are.  So, when we achieve, perform, win, excel, we feel good about ourselves, however when we fail, lose, and are defeated we feel lousy about ourselves.  Therefore, our sense of identity is like the house that was built upon a sand foundation.  When the storms and rain come, surely the house may come crashing down. Our identity rather needs to be based on something greater than our achievements, status, success, or lack thereof, our identity needs to be based on a firm foundation and understanding of who we are.  Take out a sheet of paper right now, write your name on the top of it.  Then for 15 minutes, write down anything that comes to your mind when you think of the question; how do you see yourself?  I want you to write down reflections that depict how you see yourself right now, not how you want to see yourself.  I want you also to be brutally honest, say what you really think.

The answer to this question may shed light on the messages that you heard growing up about who you are.   These answers also shed light into whether or not you may have a Family of Origin Wound. To further explore this issue, on the back side of your sheet of paper answer the following questions.

What did you hear growing up from your parents regarding your identity and self portrait?  Sarah is ________________. (write down the first ten words/phrases that come to your mind in terms of how your parents saw you.)

Did I feel invisible in my childhood? Yes, No, Maybe. A little.  Explain.

Did I feel comfortable talking about my feelings w/my parents?  Yes, No, Maybe. A little.  Explain.

Did I feel really cared for and loved by my parents?  Yes, No, Maybe. A little.  Explain.

 

Disclaimer: knowing something and feeling something are two different things.  So, you may have always known that your parents loved you, but maybe your didn’t feel loved by your parents.

All of these scenarios from your childhood give us more insight into the development of your identity and personality as an adult.

What does the word FAMILY mean to you?  Family is___________.

Family is such a loaded word and it can mean something entirely different to each person.  Family can be a source of strength and love and family can also be a source of deep pain and hurt.  Many of us may have Family of Origin wounds that we are not aware of.  When these Family of Origin wounds are not acknowledged, they wounds can cause Depression, Anxiety, and Relationship Difficulties in adulthood.

What is a Family of Origin Wound?  A Family of Origin Wound is an emotional wound that is left from our biological, adoptive mother, father, or the person that was responsible for raising us, where maybe made us feel like we were; “invisible, defective, and inadequate” or on the other side of the spectrum, made us feel like we were “too special, too amazing, golden child, and/or cannot do anything wrong”  Additionally, a family of origin wound can be also be a wound in which our parent(s) did not teach us an essential life skill necessary for a successful life, such as learning how to interact with people, initiating socializing, and/or taking feedback.    I have created a “diagram” to help show how our family of origin wounds can affect us in adult hood, however I will save that for next time because this blog will be waaaaaay to long if I don’t break this up a little bit.  With that being said, it looks like it’s time to share with you another gluten free five ingredient or less recipe, so here is a recipe for; Orange You Glad It’s Not Green Smoothie! … Because I just LOVE Smoothie’s!

Warm Regards,

Kelly Johnson, MA, LPC

“Create the kind of life right now that you will L-O-V-E.”

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YOU ARE A-M-A-Z-I-N-G!

You just have an Ass-hole living in your brain that bully’s you sometimes…..

Do you resonate with this statement?

For many people, there is an ass-hole living in their brain that likes to bully them each day.  Now, there is a huge difference in between knowing something logically about ourselves and believing something emotionally about ourselves.  For example, on a logical level you may know that you are; successful, competent, worthy, dependable, loved, accepted, enough. However, when I ask this same person, do you believe emotionally that you are accepted, loved, and worthy?  The tears will start coming down their cheeks and they will say NO.   So, anytime that I am doing self esteem/self work with people I am careful to clarify this difference.  I will say to a client, “I am not working with your logic, I am working with your emotion.  I know that you know these things about yourself logically, I am going to help you believe these things about yourself emotionally.

With this being said, I will leave you with a Self Acceptance Exercise.  I want you to write these phrases on your bathroom mirror and I want your eyes to see them every day.  Take a picture of these mantra’s on your phone, save it as your screen saver.   Please do this for 30 days before making a determination on whether or not it is effective.  I call these exercises natural Prozac, however just like Prozac, if you give up after 2 weeks, it won’t do anything, all doctors tell you to at least wait 6 weeks before assessing its usefulness, same thing applies here 🙂  Hmmm… this is probably the 3rd blog on this topic I have written about over the last few months?   Why?  BECAUSE IT IS IMPORTANT!

YOU are Incredible.  You are Incredible. YOU, the one reading this right now, YOU are Incredible. YOU do NOT believe this yet. YET.  YOU are Unstoppable. You Can Do Anything You Put Your Mind To.  You are Learning Humility.  You are Learning to Conquer Your Fears.  You are Learning to Love Your Insecurities.  You are learning to be honest with yourself.  You are becoming the BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF.  You have many hidden GIFTS that you have not discovered. YET.  You are God’s masterpiece.

Feel free to change this mantra around so it fits your personality.  For example, if you are Agnostic, Atheist, or just think God is a disappointment, take the god phrase out because that does not fit you.  You may also want to change the YOU’s to I’s so it is in 1st person.

I am closing up shop now, so I thought I would share with you another gluten free 5 ingredient recipe before I call it a night.  This recipe is for Gluten Free 5 Ingredient Peanut Butter Cookies, I hope you enjoy…doh, because I can’t until the next holiday!  (That’s from a previous post!)  Hmmm… It looks like I may just have to make some green gluten free peanut butter cookies for St. Patrick’s day on March 17th.

Warm Regards,

Kelly Johnson, MA, LPC

“Create the kind of life right now that you will L-O-V-E.”

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Healing From Fibromyalgia?

Disclaimer:  I am NOT a doctor and I do NOT have a medical degree.   I am not qualified to treat or diagnose Fibromyalgia, I am just speaking to you from my own experience.  So please do not try ANY of these suggestions mentioned in this blog, until you have talked to your doctor. 

There have been a few times over the past ten years where I have had a client come to me who was struggling with Depression & Chronic Pain.  There was a particular client named “Jake” who came to me because he was struggling with Depression and parenting issues with his 8-year-old child.

In the middle of our treatment, it also came out that he had struggled with Chronic Pain for the last few years.  I am a little embarrassed to admit this now, but while I was counseling him,  even though outwardly I was trying to be compassionate, understanding, and empathetic towards his physical pain.  On the inside, I was thinking to myself, “Is it really that bad?   I don’t think your pain can be thaaaat bad!  Maybe some of it is in your head? Just some.  Like 79% is horrible pain and 21% is in your head?”  Even though I had these judgmental thoughts, I also knew my thoughts were probably inaccurate.  So I accepted the fact that I was a little ignorant and I tried my best to just be quiet, listen, and learn.

Fast forward several years, ohhh boy, did that ignorance come back to bite me!  In the fall of 2015 I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia.   I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia after having over 6+ months of mysterious pain in all of my joints and moderate arthritis in my neck.  The pain was so incredibly debilitating that I pretty much stopped socializing for a year and when I was at work I would just lay on the couch in between sessions until the next client came in.  When the pain was at its worst, my whole body hurt just to lie down and I would be typing a two-sentence email and my elbows and wrists were throbbing in pain so much that I had tears coming down my cheeks while I was typing.   My whole world came crashing down.

I had no clue how debilitating chronic pain could be and when I found out I was completely dumb-founded.  Obviously, I have an entirely different perspective on chronic pain now and I have a deep admiration for people who struggle with this unforgiving silent illness.

With that being said, do I still think that sometimes people’s physical pain may be psychosomatic?  Yes, I do.  Do I think that some people with chronic pain may exaggerate their pain as an excuse for being lazy? Yes, I do.   With all physical illnesses, there are also psychological components that go with these illnesses and these need to be addressed as well.   The reality is that there are over 100 million people in the U.S alone who struggle with Chronic Pain every year and each person has their own story.

So how did I heal myself from Fibromyalgia?  Well, I haven’t, I don’t believe there is a 100% cure for Fibromyalgia.  Chronic pain is a mysterious illness and it can lie dormant for awhile and you think you are healed and then it peaks its ugly head out again and says “I tricked you, I’m back!”  This element of the illness is the most unforgiving part of it.  However, I do believe one can heal themselves from many of the symptoms of Fibromyalgia when they implement certain dietary changes, up physical activity, utilize pain management medications if needed, mitigate vitamin deficiencies, and heal unresolved emotional wounds.

For me, healing from Fibromyalgia first started by just accepting my pain and not expecting it to go away, at least right away.  I think this point is very important, healing does not mean that you  do not have any of the symptoms; pain, fibro fog, etc.  Healing simply means that you have learned how to manage it to the best of your ability.  I then read everything I could regarding Fibromyalgia Treatment, I probably read 3-4 books on Fibromyalgia off of Amazon and I also visited every fibro and chronic pain site I could find.  There I so much information available to us, please utilize these resources available to you in your own healing.

So long story, short, healing from Fibromyalgia for me came down to changing 5 things in my life; my diet, mitigating my vitamin deficiencies, pain management medication as needed, putting more physical activity into my schedule, and incorporating acceptance with my physical pain.

In regards to my diet changes, 90% of the time I try to stick to a; Gluten Free, Dairy less, and Sugar Free Diet.  (just refined sugar free).  However, I’m not a literalist, at all.  Honestly, I typically don’t like words like Gluten Free, Dairy Free, Sugar Free, I think these words can be quite “all or nothing” and often times people will not try these type of diets because they can’t stick to the “free” part of it.  Even, if you can start by sticking to a gluten less diet, dairy less diet, and sugar less diet, I think you may see a lot of positive changes.  If you are not interested in this type of diet, you may also want to think about incorporating a WHOLE FOODS DIET.   I think if we all committed to eating just REAL & WHOLE FOODS, we would probably all feel better.   I do not believe our bodies are designed to eat all of these chemicals that we are putting into our body and the effects can be disastrous.

For me, when I do try and stick to this diet, my body feels AMAZING, (I’m an optimist!) when I don’t stick to this diet, my body feels like KRAP.  Now, why do I say 90%?  For example with refined sugar, I can have refined sugar on all holidays and birthdays.  (And YES, of course president’s day is a holiday!) Natural sugar sources including maple syrup, honey, stevia, and fruit I can have at any time.  I take a multivitamin and turmeric every day as well.  Turmeric is a spice from Curry and it has amazing anti-inflammation properties.  Also, a caffeine supplement may be helpful for you with energy as well, especially if you are not a coffee or pop drinker.

As a general rule of thumb, while pain medications can help the symptoms, pain medications do nothing for healing the source of the pain.  The source of the physical pain can be from a wide variety of sources including; malnutrition, vitamin deficiency, inflammation, pain neuron sensitivity, inactivity, and unresolved emotional pain.   For optimal healing, one needs to get at the real source of the physical pain and heal the pain from the inside out.  However, pain medications can definitely  help temporarily and so they need to be considered as part of the whole treatment plan.  I would highly recommend not getting on narcotics if its at all possible, as these medications have a whole other slue of side effects typically.

I also try to consume green tea 3+ times a week, which helps a lot with my energy.   (Btw, I don’t drink green tea, I think it tastes like swamp water, so I just put it in my smoothie.)   Lastly, I put in more physical activity into my schedule by taking up dance, (in my family room.)   I try to dance 3+ days a week and go hiking 1-2 times a week.  People have different definitions for the word hike, but for me a hike is any walk longer than 20 minutes.

Anyways, enoooooough about my story.  Have you been diagnosed with Chronic pain?   What has helped you heal from Fibromyalgia?   I would love to hear about your story!  I am always learning and unlearning, as we all are.   Feel free to browse these fibromyalgia books on Amazon by clicking here.   In wrapping up this post, I want to share another recipe with you.  Here is another gluten free 5 ingredient recipe, this gluten free recipe is for Cheesy Broccoli Soup.    Yummy, I loooove Cheesy Broccoli Soup!   I hope you enjoy 🙂

Warm Regards,

Kelly Johnson, MA, LPC

“Create the kind of life right now that you will L-O-V-E.”

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My Top Ten Strategies for Creating an A-M-A-Z-I-N-G Family!

I am teaching a FREE class titled “My Top Ten Strategies for Creating an A-M-A-Z-I-N-G Family!” this coming Saturday, March 4th from 10-11 at my office at 3090 S Jamaica Ct # 101 Aurora CO 80015. (meeting in the basement) To sign up for this class please click here.   Space is limited.  I’ll share one strategy with you to get your curiosity going.

Secret # 10 to creating an A-M-A-Z-I-N-G family is……..

DRUM ROLE PLEASE…..

Have A Daily Family Meeting!

Really?!  That’s it? A stupid meeting?  Lame!

I know, I know,  I was thinking the same thing BEFORE I started doing it.  But, it’s been a total Game Changer for my family and my kiddos are super excited for the meeting every morning! What do we do at the meeting that’s made it a GAME-CHANGER? Looks like you’ll just have to come and find out. Can’t make this Saturday work? You’re lucky, I’ll be having the same seminar on March 18th.

What qualifies me to speak on parenting issues?   I have failed a lot & I have learned a lot.  Learning from my mistakes is what makes me a successful parent!   

On another note,  in addition to writing about mental health topics in my blog, I am also going to leave you with a 5 ingredient or less food recipe at the end of each blog entry.  🙂  Why am I doing this?  I am getting into cooking a little bit and I am obsessed with 5 ingredient or less gluten free recipes!   Over a year ago I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and I had HORRIBLE chronic pain in all of my joints and moderate arthritis in my neck.  (which for a 34 year old women was quite shocking!)

When I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia, I knew I needed to make significant changes to my diet and so I started to explore gluten free 5 ingredient cookbooks and now I’m a little obsessed with this whole 5 ingredient or less thing.  I have always been horrible in the kitchen, but with just 5 ingredients or less, its really hard to screw up a recipe.   So with out any other further ado, here is my first 5 ingredient recipe I would like to share with you.  This recipe is for Banana Muffins and there gluten free and can be made in 20 minutes!  I just keep these on hand in my refrigerator and there great for a quick snack or breakfast on the go.

Banana Blender Muffins

2 cups of oatmeal, 3 banana’s, (frozen or fresh), 2 eggs, 3/4 cup of whole dates, 1 tsp of baking soda.   salt/cinnamon to taste.

optional ingredients 2-3 tablespoons of honey and 1/2 tsp of pure vanilla extract.

Mix all ingredients in a blender and bake for 15-20 min at 350′.   Enjoy!

Extra Tip!  I have made these without the whole dates and they were pretty good as well, but they did need butter because they were too dry too eat alone.   I also have never used the optional ingredients in this recipe.

All for now, our time has came to a close.  🙂 Do you want to learn more about my Fibromyalgia journey?  I will save that story for my next post!

Warm Regards,

Kelly Johnson, MA, LPC

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Brutal Honesty Is Really Funny……..and Healing!

Have you ever heard a REALLY good stand up comic?  What do they do and say that makes them stand out as being SO FUNNY?  The one factor that makes the best stand up comic stand out from the rest is that their normally brutally honest with their audience.  As human beings we are all so attracted to honesty because we rarely ever hear it. There are some stand up comics that can come across as quite offensive as well and I am not referring to these kind. When I use the word brutal honesty,  I am also not talking about the kind of honesty in a relationship that is purposefully offensive and hurtful, this type of communication is  entirely something different and is toxic and unhealthy.   Do you want to see how incredibly healing brutal honesty can be?

Do you enjoy being a parent?  Just be honest….  If we all had the courage to be honest with our parenting struggles, I know we would hear answers all over the board such as;

I really do LOVE being a parent and I am SO thankful for my children.
I don’t like my kids at all,  not one bit.
My kids are really narcissistic and selfish and I feel helpless.
My child is highly gifted, amazing, a super star, incredible, awesome, and, and, and…..
My kids are out of control, please help me.
I am really biased about my own kids and I can’t see them objectively.  Can you help me?
I think I’m a pretty good parent and I know my faults and blind spots.
Why do I feel like I have to pretend to enjoy my kids?
Moms’ that LOVE being a Mom intimidate me, how did they get that way!?
Being a Parent is the BEST JOB IN THE WHOLE WORLD!
I don’t know how to have FUN with my kids? I’m waaaay too serious!
I LOVE how my child is growing into their own person and discovering their own personality.
I don’t know how to parent? Will you teach me?
I don’t know how to discipline? Will you teach me?
My child knows how to manipulate my emotions.
I feel uneasy with letting my child feel sadness, pain, hurt, depression, anxiety. I want to fix these emotions for them, but I can’t! Meh…
Parenting sucks sometimes!
Honestly, I wish I never had kids! It’s hard to be a parent when you feel like you were never supposed to be a parent in the first place.

Do you relate with any of these statements?   Are you a Mom and are struggling with the many demands of parenting?  Be the first of 3 Moms to email me after you read this blog and you will get a free parenting coaching session from me where I will share with you the ONE THING THAT YOU CAN DO to revolutionize your family life and change the overall climate in your home for good.   Sound too good to be true? Fair enough, the proof is in pudding. 

Warm Regards,
Kelly Johnson, MA, LPC

 

 

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The Wisdom of Insecurity

Have you ever read that book?   There is a book called the ‘Wisdom of Insecurity’ and although I have not read it yet, I have heard it is a fabulous book and it is on my reading list and I must say that I do agree with the title.   I believe very strongly that our insecurities shed so much wisdom into our identity and story.   Insecurity is the underlining feeling and fear that if someone really knows me, they may not love me. Insecurity stems from either our childhood relationships with our parents and/or our adult relationships. When we feel insecure, we feel like we have to hide parts about our self from other people in order to receive love.  Insecurity is probably the one thing that we all have in common as human beings to one extent or another.

Healing from insecurity starts with having a relationship with someone where you feel comfortable to share all your story and all your feelings. The root of insecurity often times starts out in childhood where we felt like we were not able to talk about our real feelings with our parents. A lot of us grew up in a middle class american families where we were taught the values of hard work, strong character, your word is your bond, give to others who are less fortunate, etc.  However, most of us did not learn how to talk about our feelings. Insecurity is that feeling that says “if I am exposed and you really know me,  you may withdraw from the relationship and walk away.” The good news is, I have counseled thousands of individuals and I can tell you that the one thing we all have in common is this fear of being known and loved.   Truthfully, insecurity is what connects us all as human beings and I believe insecurity is beautiful when we are honest about it.

The major areas that people feel insecure about are; their personality, skills, relationships, body, and sexuality. When I say sexuality, I don’t mean someones orientation, although this can be an area of insecurity as well, I mean how someone expresses them self sexually in their inner most intimate relationship.  Everyone has a different insecurity story, but if we are going to heal ourselves of our insecurity, we need to tell our story. Telling our story takes a lot of courage and vulnerability.  Courage is not the absence of fear, its quite the opposite actually. Courage is moving forward and saying how we really feel, sharing what we really think, and saying what we really want to say, in the midst of fear.  Courage can not be found without fear.

On another note, here is another playlist for your enjoyment.  This playlist was put together by my virtual writing mentor Michael Hyatt and I really love this playlist.  All for now, I hope you had a good weekend.    🙂

 

Warm Regards,

 

Kelly Johnson, MA, LPC

 

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Healing from Dyslexia

In my years as a therapist I have counseled a plethora of individuals who have been diagnosed with Dyslexia.  Dyslexia is a general term for disorders that involves difficulty in learning to read or interpret words, letters, and other symbols.  Because there is so much misinformation out there regarding Dyslexia, the diagnosis of Dyslexia can sometimes create low self esteem and low self confidence because the person is scared to take personal and professional risks where they may have to read a lot or read out loud a lot.   When I have counseled these clients with Dyslexia, they were initially coming to me for areas that they thought were unrelated to their Dyslexia such as Depression and Anxiety.  However, once I started working with these clients they and I alike quickly found out that sometimes their Depression and Anxiety was directly related to their thoughts about their Dyslexia.

I believe very strongly that conditions like dyslexia, among many other learning, reading, and/or speaking disabilities requires us to open up our world view to the BEAUTY and DIVERSITY of the human personality.  Frankly, I loooove the diversity within the human personality and I would not have it any other way.  I believe very strongly that impediments such as Dyslexia, among many others are actually INCREDIBLE and AMAZING gifts from above.

When I meet someone with Dyslexia and I can tell that their self-conscience about their Dyslexia I will ask them to say these mantra’s to themselves in front of a mirror every day for 30 days morning and night.  Sometimes I will also have them read out loud in front of me and I will ask them to purposefully mess up words to desensitize themselves to their dyslexia.  Then I will have that person find one person who they trust and read out loud to that person 4-5x a week to desensitize themselves to their fears with reading out loud.

When someone commits to practicing these two exercises regularly it will decrease shame and embarrassment and increase self acceptance, self love, and self empowerment.  In doing this, I am starting to teach them to accept and love their dyslexia and I am also helping them to give up some of their limited ideas they may have received regarding Dyslexia from their youth.   When I am working with someone who has Depression and low self esteem because of their Dyslexia, when I am done working with that client, I want them to FEEL “Proud of their Dyslexia and wear their Dyslexia with Pride.”  When I have reached this point, I know we are getting closer at healing the shame that binds them and empowering them by seeing their struggle as a gift.

Healing from Dyslexia Mantra’s

~Say these Phrases 2x every day in front of a mirror looking into your pupils~

I Dylexia hvae.

I am BEAUTIFUL jsut teh way I am.

I am unstoppalbe.

I am Inrcedbile.

I am A-M-A-Z-I-N-G jsut teh wya I am.

I am Accepted.

I can od ynathing I put my mndi to.

I Can Do Anything I Ptu My Mind To.

I am leanring to loooooooove my dysleixia.

I don’t believe these htings abuot myslef yet.   yet.

Hlep me with my unbleeif.

Have you been diagnosed with Dyslexia?  How has your Dyslexia effected you?  I would love to hear your story, please comment below or e-mail me.   Disclaimer:  When I am using the terminology; “Healing from Dyslexia” in this blog, I am only referring to healing the shame that binds someone when they are battling dyslexia.  If you would like some additional resources on Dyslexia please click here.   Have a great week!

Namaste 🙂

Kelly Johnson, MA, LPC

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Skype Counseling

In addition to Traditional Counseling, I am now offering Skype Counseling and Phone Counseling sessions as well to established clients only on a case by case basis.  What this means is that; If you are an established client and you are wanting to transition from in office counseling sessions to Skype counseling sessions, I am open to discussing this possibility with you if you are an individual client who is having mild issues with mood and/or relationships.  However, I am NOT comfortable with phone/skype sessions for clients and/or families who are having moderate to significant issues with depression, anxiety, relationships, and substance use/abuse.  In these situations,  face to face sessions are absolutely critical.  Additionally, please be advised that Skype counseling is primarily just for individuals and maybe couples in select situations.   Family Therapy needs to be done in the counseling office, parenting coaching can be done over Skype/Phone.  If you have any questions regarding my Skype/Phone counseling policies, please feel free to contact me and I will get back to you as soon as I am able.

 

 

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Walking Talk Therapy at Highline Canal Park

Does Traditional Talk therapy leave you feeling intimidated and uninterested in therapy?

Would you open up and talk more to your therapist if you were walking side by side vs. sitting in front of your therapist on a coach?

Do you find that you connect more with your mind and psyche through being in nature vs. sitting on a coach talking to somebody?

Do you often times find that you have your best conversations with people when your walking or sitting side by side vs. sitting in front of them?   (such as walking, hiking, or sitting in a passenger seat in a car?)

 

If you answered YES to these questions than you may be an ideal candidate for Walking Talk Therapy.  Walking Talk Therapy is where we incorporate nature and being outside into your counseling experience and process.  For many people traditional talk therapy can be a little intimidating and unnerving. With Walking Talk Therapy we combine the best of both worlds with being out in nature and implementing talk therapy while we are walking.

Proponents of Walking Talk Therapy also say that Walking Talk Therapy can be much more relaxing and comfortable.   Walking Talk Therapy  takes off some emotional pressure for the client and because of this they’re able to share more readily than they would be perhaps if they were in a traditional office setting.  You will often hear parents of teenagers say that they have their BEST CONVERSATIONS with their teenager when their driving in the car.  This is no mistake and there is a reason for this.  When you are driving, you are able to just focus on the road and you do not have to focus on looking at the person while you are talking.  Because of this,  sometimes teenagers are more apt to share and open up.

My counseling office is a 5 minute walk from Highline Canal Park.  If you would like to incorporate Walking Talk Therapy into your counseling treatment please let me know and I will try to incorporate these experiences into your counseling treatment.   All research and science supports the idea that nature and wilderness alone are very healing emotionally and psychologically.  There are a plethora of therapy wilderness programs that are in existence today based off of these research findings.  By offering these services I am tuning into the healing capacity of nature and utilizing these healing elements to compliment your counseling experience.  To learn more about Walking Therapy please feel free to peruse the links below.

Kelly Johnson, MA, LPC

Walking Talk Therapy Resources

http://www.webmd.com/balance/features/walk-and-talk-therapy#1

http://www.walktalktherapymn.com/what-is-walk-talk-therapy/

http://www.growthcounselingservices.com/walk-talk-therapy-glendora-ca/

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