A New Year and a New You!

Hello my fellow readers and bloggers!

Welcome to my new blog and welcome to a new you and a new year in 2017!   Can I get an Amen for a cheesy introduction?!  If you would like to subscribe to my new blog please click here.    The year 2017 marks the 10th year that The Center for Healing and Change has been in business.  I have learned so much the last 10 years and I am very excited about the changes that will be taking place in the near future with the Center for Healing and Change.

I have been on a Sabbatical  for the last 3+ months and during this time I have not been accepting any new clients or referrals.  As of January 1st, 2017 I am now back in business again and I am gladly accepting new clients and referrals.   This sabbatical has provided me with a much needed restoration and renewal.   This sabbatical has also provided me with a new vision and direction for where I see the future going with the Center for Healing and Change.   During this sabbatical I have also been writing a lot and I am currently working on 2 books.    I thought I would give you an introduction to hopefully wet your appetite and build a little curiosity for when my book is completed within the next few months.

To date in the field of psychology there are over 1,000 different types of therapy and therapeutic modalities some among the most popular include; Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Psycho-Dynamic Therapy, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, EMDR, Schema Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Solution Focused Therapy, and Mindfulness. Wow, talk about a mouth full!

However, what is painfully obvious to me is that there has not been ONE therapeutic modality that just makes good common sense to everybody and is easy to understand.  We are all starving for someone to just speak the truth to us, plain and simple.  As human beings, we all have the same burning questions and we all want the answers explained to us in a simple and easy to understand format:
1. Who Am I? Why am I the way I am?
2. How did my childhood effect the development of my personality as an adult?
3. Can I change parts of my personality that I do not like?
4. How can I heal myself from Depression, Anxiety, Insecurity, Narcissism, Trauma,  Lying, and dysfunctional relationships?
5. Why is my relationship falling apart?  What can I do to fix it?

So, I am a problem-solver and I am also a no-non sense therapist.  I have created a new psychological model called “Who’s Driving Your Bus?” to help people understand their own emotional and mental health wounds and provide a blueprint for healing our emotional and mental health wounds. The premise behind my psychological model is that we all have been given  a “Special, Unique, Amazing, Individual, and Difficult Personality.”  What does this mean?   We all have parts of our personality that we like, to which I call our, “Special, Unique, and Amazing Characters”, and we all have parts of our personality that we do not like, to which I call our “Difficult Characters or Wounded Characters”.   All of these Characters live in what I call our Life Bus and when our wounded Character’s take over and are in the driver’s seat of our life bus, we stop functioning and thriving in our life and in our relationships.

Have you seen the Disney movie, Inside Out? My psychological model, “Who’s Driving Your Bus?” is based off of this movie, so I highly recommend you watch it!  When I was developing this psychological model I thought to myself I need to develop a model that will embrace and acknowledge the BEAUTY of the whole personality.

Within this psychological model, most people will resonate with a dozen or more characters, so if you think you may have a trait or two of one character, highlight that character and then go back and read the chapter assigned to healing that particular character.  This list of characters is also designed to teach us that our personality should not be put into a box.  When I tell a client they have some narcissistic tendencies, I initially see their guards go up, because understandably so no one wants their personality to be put into a box, such as the “narcissistic” box or the “depressed” box.  When I say to this client, “look at the other 10+ characters that are part of your personality; you are hilarious, you are caring, you are ambitious, and yes you do have some narcissism and we are going to heal it”  a light bulb goes off and they get it and there now ready to work on healing their narcissism.

Being that I am AD/HD gifted, I understand the need to not want to read a whole book. Most people are just like me, there thinking, “don’t give me a book on healing Depression, give me the nuts and bolts on how to heal Depression in one chapter, then I will be interested.” So that’s what I have done, I have essentially created a “cliff notes version self help manual”.  This book is ideal for people who say, “I don’t have time to read books” and are simply wanting the nuts and bolts. My goal is to create the
on healing all (or most) of our emotional/mental health wounds. My goal is also to provide a blue print for healing that honors the whole person, emotional, physical, and spiritual.

So, without any further ado, ladies and gentleman, may I introduce you to ..…. YOU 🙂 Here is a list of all of the Characters that create your Individual, Amazing, Unique, Special and Difficult Personality.  I did not pick gender neutral names on purpose, because we all have some feminine traits and masculine traits.

Hard Worker Hap Self-Starter Seth Humble Hanan (Humility) Distracted Diana (AD/HD)
Down to Earth Danny Loved Lenard Ambitious Annie Perfectionist Pedro
Head Case Hannah Resilient Rudy “Fuck Feelings” Frank Excuses Edward
Friendly Freeda Dancer Delilah Avoidant Al Great listener Gary
Mean Maria Nature Novea Misunderstood Molly Abusive Al (wants to change)
Bored Brady Defective Dean Faithful Fernando Self-Sacrifice Stephanie
Scared Sal Submissive Senia Happy Jose Not a great listener Nick
Under-Achiever Ana Angry Alma Funny Fergus Sports Fanatic Felipe
Free Thinker Franny Sober Santiago Caretaker Carrie Partier Patty (Addictions)
Mind Games Matt Joyful Joy Selfish Samantha Secrets Sally (shame)
Frugal Fran/Spendy Sam Insecure Ian Life of the Party Lola How the HECK do I socialize?! Harry 🙂
Depressed Darla (a little or alot) Loyal Lynn Codependent Clara Prideful Penelope
Honest Hagar Hopeless Hara Talks too much Tommy Inquisitive Anika
Confident Corina Lonely Lois Video game lover Vick Controlling Kyle
Lover Lyle Defensive Dana Techy Timmy Abusive Ann (doesn’t wants to change)
Religious Raul (Unhealthy Spirituality) Hero, My Hero Lazy Lenny Lying Lad (doesn’t want to change)
My Authentic Self Narcissistic Ned Quiet Quinn People-Pleaser Penny
Rec League Ricardo Cheater Chap Kind Calvin My Authentic Self
Handyman Hank Over-achiever Alex Grieving Glen Lying Len (wants to change)
Dramatic Diana Unwanted Wyatt OCD  Orion (a little or alot) See Yourself As Good Sees You Selah (Healthy Spirituality)
Wise Winona In denial Ida Judgemental Janet Anxious Adam (Anxiety)


Now, Write down the top 10-15 characters that you resonate with that encompass and create your individual, amazing, unique, and difficult personality.  The character “Hero, My Hero’ I developed to represent someone who is choosing to be completely honest about their struggles and ask for help.  For example, someone who identifies as struggling with Depression, Anxiety, Lying, Infidelity, Abuse, Addictions, Narcissism and wants to 100% come clean and be honest with themselves and get help.  If this is you, you are my Hero and “Hero, My Hero” needs to be one of the Characters in your life bus.

There are 3 culprits, Stress, Anxiety, and Insecurity, that may cause a Wounded Character to get upset and feel like their buttons are being pushed.  Consequently, when Stress, Anxiety, and Insecurity are present in our life, our wounded Characters will want to go from sitting in the back seat of our life bus as a passenger, to taking over and driving our  bus. (and then we end up in the ditch!)

The Character, “My Authentic Self” is who you really are underneath all of your wounds and hurts.  This Character, “My Authentic Self” represents the successful integration of all of your characters.  When we have healed all of our wounds, it is the “My Authentic Self” Character is who is driving our life bus.  The goal in therapy is to become aware of all of our characters within our personality and to become the “Best Version of Ourselves” by identifying when each of our wounded or difficult characters are driving our life bus and taking the necessary steps to heal that wounded character and walk that character back to its original seat in the passenger section of the bus.

Are you excited to read more!?   I hope I have built a little anticipation and excitement for when my book is finished and please shout me a line if you can think of any characters that you would like me to add to “Who’s Driving Your Bus?” and maybe your Character will end up in the final revision.  Wow, I think this is officially the longest blog post I have ever written.

Check back soon as I will be posting new blogs 2-3x week for the whole year of 2017.   At least that’s what my New Years resolution was and now that I have said it, it looks I’ll just have to stick to it.   🙂

Warm Regards,

Kelly Johnson, MA, LPC

Copyright January, 2017






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Calling All Women!


I’m offering a Women Only Dance Class every other Saturday at 10:00 am.  If you are interested in signing up, please click here.  The focus of this class is Exploring The Healing Art of Dance.  If you like dancing, you will LOVE this class.  If you don’t like dancing, I’ll convert you. 😉  Also, last year I had my Intern work on a Pinterest Business Project and she pinned many topics regarding Emotional/Mental Health on my Business Pinterest Page.   I  am now reorganizing these and creating a new Pinterest Business Page and I will let you know how you can connect with me through Pinterest after I get my page up and running.


Warm Regards,

Kelly Johnson, MA, LPC

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“Spare the Rod, Spoil The Child” …. ?

So the verse above is taken from the Bible, Proverbs 13:24.  Some people take this verse as a literal interpretation and use it to support spanking as a viable discipline option for children.  While others interpret this verse in a figurative way, the child who is not disciplined will become selfish and entitled.  Wherever you fall on the spectrum, we would all agree that discipline is important in molding our children to become productive, responsible, and compassionate citizens that contribute to the world in meaningful ways.   Here are a few things to keep in mind the next time you want to discipline your child.

When you discipline your child, think ACTION not WORDS.  There is an excellent book titled “Duct Tape Parenting” that talks about the importance of this distinction.  What I mean by this is kids respond when we ACT vs. when we have a long TALK with them or YELL at them.  When our primary discipline method is yelling at them they become desensitized to our anger over time and this has little effect on changing their behavior.

In terms of the delivery of discipline, here is a quick how to guide that may be helpful. I often hear parents say, “I sat down with my 4 year old and talked to him about lying and why it’s wrong but he keeps doing it…why? That’s like saying, “why do you keep grabbing for the Snickers when you know you shouldn’t.”  Instead of having a long winded talk when you discipline, make your discipline talk be under 3 minutes.    First, state the behavior and why it was wrong, “Don’t hit your brother, that’s hurtful and disrespectful.”  Next, state what you would like to see change, “next time your brother is annoying you come and get us or go into a different room” and last, give a consequence, “your consequence is you need to make a treat for your brother and write him an apology note.”  Let me reiterate, this should only take 2-3 minutes,  refrain from having long winded “talks of life” to your 3-8 year old as they are not at the developmental level to understand these and will just tune you out.

When you do discipline your child address their behavior not their identity. Say something like, “I was upset when you did _________”  do not say “you’re bad for doing that”.  Also when you pick a consequence make sure you stick to it, consistency is everything.   Some more creative consequences include “Make a Treat for Your Sibling” when one sibling is rude to the other sibling, make siblings hold hands for 10-15 minutes.  The standards include give the child an extra chore, have the child write a letter to the person they offended, taking away a privilege, and timeouts.  If you choose to spank your children, do so without aggression or impulse.    If you cannot do this, your best bet is to try the other methods. Typically with timeouts, you want to do the time out equivalent to the age of the child and refrain from having time outs in rooms with toys or fun stuff.  (A bathroom toilet is one of my personal favorites!)  Also, don’t just catch your child being naughty, catch them being good as well and praise them for that.  When you praise them try to praise them for inner qualities such as honesty, hard work, perseverance, humility, (when they admit to lying or apologize for a hurtful behavior) trustworthiness, and forgiveness.

Well I saved my most important point for last and I will not be able to emphasize this point enough! In your parenting,  make sure your kids know that you are human too and make mistakes every day.  When you act out of anger, hurt their feelings, ignore them, etc, make sure you apologize for your behavior and own it.  Do not minimize your behaviors by telling them that “they shouldn’t be hurt” or that” they’re too sensitive”.

The best parenting book is the book of your life, your children are ALWAYS watching you. They watch how you treat your spouse, the cashier at the grocery store, the guy that cut you off, and the waitress that brought you the wrong meal.

Rodney Atkins hit Song, “Watching You” illustrates this point pretty good.

“I’m your buckaroo, I wanna be like you
And eat all my food and grow as tall as you are
We got cowboy boots and camo pants
Yeah we’re just alike, hey ain’t we dad
I wanna do everything you do
So I’ve been watching you”

Some parenting resources to help you along your journey include; Parenting with Love and Logic, Parenting Magic 1, 2, 3, and Daring Greatly.  In our parenting practices, always remember that the “good enough” parents are the parents that will admit when there struggling and seek out resources vs. denial and pretending to be okay. I thought I would end this blog by sharing a funny story about my 3 year old son.  My kiddos and I went to Claire’s the other day to shop around and low and behold the following day when I emptied my son’s jacket pocket out, I found a pair of earrings from Claire’s! Yep, the therapists’ son is a little thief 😉  Thankfully, the store worker was gracious when we brought them back the next day.






Now it’s time to get off your computer and get outside with your little ones!  Need some ideas on how to have fun and get the creative juices flowing with your kids… I’ll be blogging on that next week.

Kelly Johnson, MA, LPC

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“How To Guide” on Dealing with Passive Aggressive People :)

Passive-aggressive behavior is defined as the indirect expression of hostility, rejection, insecurity, jealousy, or unfairness such as through procrastination, sarcasm, cancelling plans, coming home late, stubbornness, sullenness, or deliberate or repeated failure to accomplish requested tasks for which one is (often explicitly) responsible for. When someone is passive aggressive they are not wanting or they dont know how to communicate their feelings directly. Here are 4 pointers to work effectively with the passive aggressive person in your life.

1. Call it out for what it is, naming a behavior disarms the impact of that behavior.  With Passive-aggressive behavior there is a fear and avoidance of direct conflict, while a feeling of powerlessness and helplessness remains. According to Scott Wetzler, Ph.D., vice chairman of the Department of Psychiatry at Montefiore Medical Center, “The big thing here is to recognize the phenomenon, the behavior, for what it is — to see it as a kind of hostility and not be fooled by the innocuousness, the sugar-coatedness of it,”

2. Set Limits and Be Assertive.  The truth is, we teach people how to treat us.  If we continually accept maltreatment, we will get more maltreatment.  We need to muster up the courage to confront passive aggressive behavior, call it for what it is, and set limits with that behavior.  Example- if your friend repeatedly breaks plans with you, make other plans vs. staying home and waiting for that person to come around. Your limits are only good to the extent that you maintain them.   Assertiveness is like a muscle, we need to practice it in order to build it.  If you struggle with being assertive, when you first start, you will feel very insecure, awkward, and silly. Embrace these feelings as evidence that your growing your assertiveness muscle vs giving up on it because it’s too hard or uncomfortable.

3. Talk Specifically Not Generally about Behaviors.  When you communicate   refrain from using “all or never statements”  These statements create defensiveness because the reality is people rarely “always or never” do anything.  When you communicate, be clear and concise about the passive aggressive behavior.  Say something like; “When you did __________ I felt _________. Instead of doing _________ can you do _________ next time.

4. Behavior is Everything.   Evaluate the quality of your relationships by the persons’ behaviors, not by their words.  Words can sometimes manipulate, charm, deceive and cause confusion because the persons words are not in agreement with their behaviors.

For more information on passive aggression, there is an excellent article on Psychology Today here.  If you would like help with developing assertiveness skills or with working on your own passive aggressive tendencies,  please call us at 720-204-8747 and set up a consultation today!

Warm Regards,

Kelly Johnson, MA, LPC

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What are you talking about?!?! I’m not ANGRY!!!!

Sound familiar? 🙂

We are now offering court approved Anger Management groups.   Here are 5 SUREFIRE ways that you can start to control your anger NOW!

1.  Scale your emotions and Identify the emotion behind the Anger.  There are five deadly culprit emotions that are behind anger, if you can identify these emotions before they get to anger than you have successfully navigating a potential anger outburst.  These emotions include; Rejection, Inadequacy, Jealousy, Resentment, and Injustice.  If your anger was on a scale of 1-10, 1-minimal, 10, extreme, you would want to do this scaling excercise when your anger was at about a 3-6.  Identify which one of the deadly culprits is behind your anger and then communicate that to the other person.  Try saying, “When you did ______ I may have felt a little _________.  Instead of doing ________ next time could you do _________instead.

2. Take a Time-Out for 30 minutes.  Take yourself out of the situation that is making you angry and go for a walk.  Getting some distance from the situation allows you to get more of a global perspective vs having a tunnel vision perspective where your opinion is the only one being considered.

3. Disarming Technique.  Find some truth in what the other person is saying.  In conflicts, our ego and pride get in the way from effective communication, so we all need an ego check every now and then. If someone is confronting us, most often there is some TRUTH in what the other person is saying.  we need to disarm our anger by being able to find some TRUTH in what the other person is saying about our behavior and provide understanding and empathy with the other person.

4. Communicate your Needs.  Anger, resentment, distance, coldness, and apathy develop when we are unable to communicate our needs in a relationship.  Most of us were never taught by our family on how to communicate our needs in a relationship.  If this is you, admit your weakness in this area and make it a strength by learning and reading about this topic.  Be vulnerable and communicating your NEED vs. becoming distant and angry.

5. Identify Stress-Releasors in your life and incorporate these into your life.  What makes you relax? What makes you feel good?  What is life-giving for you?  Come up with a list of 10 stress relieving activities and practice them regularly.

If you are interested in signing up for our anger management groups, please call us at 720-204-8747 or sign up on our website.

Cheers to Managing Your Anger This Holiday Season 🙂

Kelly Johnson, MA, LPC
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Have Sex With Your Socks Off…. And 4 Other Keys To A Successful Relationship

Does the word THRIVE define your most intimate relationship? All too often the answer to this question is a resounding NO. Here are 5 things that you can do NOW to take your relationship from surviving to thriving.

1. EACH NIGHT, ASK THE QUESTION: “HOW ARE YOU?” AND THEN HAVE YOUR PARTNER PAUSE FOR 10 SECONDS BEFORE THEY ANSWER. “How are you?” is a question that gets thrown around a lot and most of us give our auto-pilot answer of “good” or “fine”.  The 10 second pause forces us to look inward and give a more heartfelt and honest response.


3. Date night 1x a week religiously and take turns planning the date, be creative and fun!(this can even be done at home after the kiddos are sleeping!)

3. Do “FANOS” with each other regularly, this is where you and your partner share a……

F-eeling (print off this feeling wheel to get beyond bored, busy, tired, & hungry answers 😉
A-ffirmation. Give a genuine praise or compliment to your partner.
N-eed. Share a need that you have.
O-wnership. Take ownership and apologize for any hurtful behaviors.
S-truggle. Share a struggle that you had that day or week.

4. Be VULNERABLE.  When you feel rejected by your partner share that with them vs. being distant, rude, angry, or cold.  Say “When you did ______ I might of felt a little rejected.”  If your partner shares that with you, bring your defenses down and really listen with the intent of understanding NOT defending.  Also,  be vulnerable with sharing positive feelings as well.  Saying something like, “When you did _______ I felt really loved by you, thank you!”  For more information on this topic, please read the book, Daring Greatly.

5. Have Sex with your socks off!  This concept is about allowing sex to be an experience vs a performance.  For more information on this topic, please read The Passionista or She Comes First, these are both excellent books on increasing sexual intimacy in marriage.

Wishing you healing and health in your relationships this holiday season:)

Kelly Johnson, MA, LPC
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Our Anger Iceberg

iceberg11-470x260When we find ourselves getting angry, we often overlook other emotions we might be feeling. Anger can be such an overwhelming emotion that this understandable. Anger takes over our body, making us feel alert, tense, short of breath, other sensations. Anger also takes over our mind, making it hard to think about anything else. Checking in with ourselves in the moment of anger can be impractical. If we can better track our emotions throughout the day, we may be gain insight into what types of things push of over the edge: bring us from irritated to angry. There may not be one thing in our day that makes us angry, sometimes we have a roller coaster of a day and that last big hill is just too much. What are some emotions that are often a part of you day? Maybe a lot of things make you feel slightly irritated throughout the day. Maybe you feel tired so much that it’s hard to deal with stressful events. Maybe you’re really sad about something and it comes out as anger. We can think about anger as an iceberg. When you’re on a boat, you only see the top of the iceberg and it doesn’t look that big. That’s the anger. Sometimes we only show the tip of our emotions, or that may be the only part we feel and are aware of. When you look beneath the surface, however, we are more complicated than that. We have a lot of things going on in our lives that are really hard to deal with and it’s too hard to handle all those other feelings. The hardest part is that we may not even realize that we’re doing this. It can be so helpful to learn how to increase Emotional Intelligence (EQ). This is an understanding of our emotions and the ability to perceive other’s emotions. EQ can dramatically change our interactions with people. When you know how you’re feeling and what to do with those emotions and you can read how other’s are feelings, you have the opportunity to see the entire iceberg. Clarity comes with EQ. Some people say that it is an inherent ability, but here at The Center for Healing and Change, we can give you tools to increase your EQ and start to have better relationships.

This site can give you more information about EQ.

Please set up an appointment today.

Wishing you clarity,

Courtney Crotty, Graduate Intern

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Preventing Anger

Finding_CalmHave you ever thought of your anger as being preventable? Reactions to anger, such as walking away or taking deep breaths, can be helpful in the moment. However, you can prevent the moment from even happening. There are many feelings underlying anger. Learning which ones push us over the edge is so important in preventing uncontrollable anger. The most important thing we need to learn is that anger does not just pop up out of nowhere. There are typically a series of events that lead up to strong feelings of anger. It can be so helpful for us to learn which events typically build on each other. Some of these events may seem minute or we may unconsciously brush them off. An example of an event like this might be that our significant other did not put away the knife they used to make a sandwich. We may feel a pang of frustration when we notice, but we’ll usually just take care of it and forget about it.  When we think back and try to find activating events, these are the ones that are harder to point out. Some events are obvious, such as the person in front of us at the grocery store who asks for paper bags after his groceries are already in plastic. It is important to note here that these are examples and may or may not be a big deal for you. People react so differently to the same life events, and learning about yourself is the biggest part of counseling. Our goal is to help you identify those “big” and “little” events so you can be more intentional with how you respond to them. “I’m noticing this seemingly small thing is bringing up emotions for me. I’m consciously deciding to let it go and to not allow it to affect my day.”

Please come to the Center for Healing and Change we can help you learn what building up for you throughout your day and give you effective tools for handling those triggers.

Wishing you a calm Halloween,

Courtney Crotty, Graduate Intern

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Alternatives to Anger

What are some things you can do with your anger besides lashing out? Anger is strong emotion that can be helpful to us in some situations.  It is part of the “fight or flight” response that we need for survival.  Our heart rates and breathing increase and we become extremely focused.  The problem is that we cannot fight everything that makes us angry.  We could get in trouble, lose relationships, or destroy things.  The piece of anger where we become extremely focused is helpful when we are being attacked, but not so helpful when we are pissed off at the fast-food worker for getting our order wrong.  We get into trouble when we cannot let it go, be assertive without being aggressive, or calm ourselves down.  These three alternatives are ways to handle our anger without being aggressive.  “Letting it go” can be helpful in the moment and allow us to handle the situation the way we want to.  However, using this tool as our only resource can lead to unresolved feelings in the long run.  Calming ourselves down is the same type of tool but it helps with the physiological aspect of anger.  Calming techniques help lower our heart rate and slow down our breathing, allowing our minds and bodies to relax enough to handle the situation how we want to.  A third technique is to be assertive without being aggressive.  This will help us get our feelings off our chest and express what we need without harming another person physically or emotionally or breaking something.  The problem with this technique is that we cannot always tell someone how we feel or what we need. For example, we cannot have a civil conversation with the person who did not use their turn signal.  Following them until they get out of their car to talk with them and tell them how frustrated we are is typically unacceptable. Using these three tools at different times in different situations can be so helpful.  However, this can be easier said than done.  For help implementing these tools into your daily life, please schedule an appointment with us at The Center for Healing and Change.

To Healthily Expressing Ourselves,
Courtney Crotty, Graduate Intern

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Writing Our Chapters

old-books-32Do you ever look back on your life and wonder, “What have I been doing all these years?” It can be easy to focus on the hard times we’ve had and forget about all of the good things.  Dr. Ira Progoff developed a specific method of journaling to help us notice high points and low points and to look at how these events impact our world today. An important note to make here is to resist placing judgment on the events in our lives and simply notice how they impacted us, how they made us feel, and how we feel thinking about them now.  Journaling can be a weird, foreign language for people.  This exercise does not have to be structured like a journal but we can think of it as a map of our lives.  We are picking out stepping stones that led us to where we are now.

There are different variations of this exercise but I’m going to focus on “My life as an autobiography.” This about your life in chapters.  These can be chronological chapters, divided up by people or events, or placed in any order that makes sense to you.  They key is to come up with 10-12 “chapters” with titles.  An examples of a chronological setup: “High School: Learning about Independence,” “College: Refiguring myself.” Here is an example of chapters by people: “Stephanie: Losing a Best Friend,” “My Mom is my Rock.” Make sense?  Go ahead and try this out yourself!  Don’t feel like there is a right way or that you have to be happy with how you set it up the first time.  Try not to overthink the process but focus on the events that shaped you.

Now that you have your autobiography, you may be thinking, “What do I do with this information?” For help going through your chapters and figuring out the best way to handle this new way of thinking about your life, visit us at the Center for Healing and Change.  We are happy to help make sense of your chapters.

To read more about journaling your life, visit this website.

To learning about ourselves,
Courtney Crotty, Intern


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