Hello my fellow readers and bloggers!
Welcome to my new blog and welcome to a new you and a new year in 2017! Can I get an Amen for a cheesy introduction?! If you would like to subscribe to my new blog please click here. The year 2017 marks the 10th year that The Center for Healing and Change has been in business. I have learned so much the last 10 years and I am very excited about the changes that will be taking place in the near future with the Center for Healing and Change.
I have been on a Sabbatical for the last 3+ months and during this time I have not been accepting any new clients or referrals. As of January 1st, 2017 I am now back in business again and I am gladly accepting new clients and referrals. This sabbatical has provided me with a much needed restoration and renewal. This sabbatical has also provided me with a new vision and direction for where I see the future going with the Center for Healing and Change. During this sabbatical I have also been writing a lot and I am currently working on 2 books. I thought I would give you an introduction to hopefully wet your appetite and build a little curiosity for when my book is completed within the next few months.
To date in the field of psychology there are over 1,000 different types of therapy and therapeutic modalities some among the most popular include; Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Psycho-Dynamic Therapy, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, EMDR, Schema Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Solution Focused Therapy, and Mindfulness. Wow, talk about a mouth full!
However, what is painfully obvious to me is that there has not been ONE therapeutic modality that just makes good common sense to everybody and is easy to understand. We are all starving for someone to just speak the truth to us, plain and simple. As human beings, we all have the same burning questions and we all want the answers explained to us in a simple and easy to understand format:
1. Who Am I? Why am I the way I am?
2. How did my childhood effect the development of my personality as an adult?
3. Can I change parts of my personality that I do not like?
4. How can I heal myself from Depression, Anxiety, Insecurity, Narcissism, Trauma, Lying, and dysfunctional relationships?
5. Why is my relationship falling apart? What can I do to fix it?
So, I am a problem-solver and I am also a no-non sense therapist. I have created a new psychological model called “Who’s Driving Your Bus?” to help people understand their own emotional and mental health wounds and provide a blueprint for healing our emotional and mental health wounds. The premise behind my psychological model is that we all have been given a “Special, Unique, Amazing, Individual, and Difficult Personality.” What does this mean? We all have parts of our personality that we like, to which I call our, “Special, Unique, and Amazing Characters”, and we all have parts of our personality that we do not like, to which I call our “Difficult Characters or Wounded Characters”. All of these Characters live in what I call our Life Bus and when our wounded Character’s take over and are in the driver’s seat of our life bus, we stop functioning and thriving in our life and in our relationships.
Have you seen the Disney movie, Inside Out? My psychological model, “Who’s Driving Your Bus?” is based off of this movie, so I highly recommend you watch it! When I was developing this psychological model I thought to myself I need to develop a model that will embrace and acknowledge the BEAUTY of the whole personality.
Within this psychological model, most people will resonate with a dozen or more characters, so if you think you may have a trait or two of one character, highlight that character and then go back and read the chapter assigned to healing that particular character. This list of characters is also designed to teach us that our personality should not be put into a box. When I tell a client they have some narcissistic tendencies, I initially see their guards go up, because understandably so no one wants their personality to be put into a box, such as the “narcissistic” box or the “depressed” box. When I say to this client, “look at the other 10+ characters that are part of your personality; you are hilarious, you are caring, you are ambitious, and yes you do have some narcissism and we are going to heal it” a light bulb goes off and they get it and there now ready to work on healing their narcissism.
Being that I am AD/HD gifted, I understand the need to not want to read a whole book. Most people are just like me, there thinking, “don’t give me a book on healing Depression, give me the nuts and bolts on how to heal Depression in one chapter, then I will be interested.” So that’s what I have done, I have essentially created a “cliff notes version self help manual”. This book is ideal for people who say, “I don’t have time to read books” and are simply wanting the nuts and bolts. My goal is to create the
on healing all (or most) of our emotional/mental health wounds. My goal is also to provide a blue print for healing that honors the whole person, emotional, physical, and spiritual.
So, without any further ado, ladies and gentleman, may I introduce you to ..…. YOU 🙂 Here is a list of all of the Characters that create your Individual, Amazing, Unique, Special and Difficult Personality. I did not pick gender neutral names on purpose, because we all have some feminine traits and masculine traits.
|Hard Worker Hap||Self-Starter Seth||Humble Hanan (Humility)||Distracted Diana (AD/HD)|
|Down to Earth Danny||Loved Lenard||Ambitious Annie||Perfectionist Pedro|
|Head Case Hannah||Resilient Rudy||“Fuck Feelings” Frank||Excuses Edward|
|Friendly Freeda||Dancer Delilah||Avoidant Al||Great listener Gary|
|Mean Maria||Nature Novea||Misunderstood Molly||Abusive Al (wants to change)|
|Bored Brady||Defective Dean||Faithful Fernando||Self-Sacrifice Stephanie|
|Scared Sal||Submissive Senia||Happy Jose||Not a great listener Nick|
|Under-Achiever Ana||Angry Alma||Funny Fergus||Sports Fanatic Felipe|
|Free Thinker Franny||Sober Santiago||Caretaker Carrie||Partier Patty (Addictions)|
|Mind Games Matt||Joyful Joy||Selfish Samantha||Secrets Sally (shame)|
|Frugal Fran/Spendy Sam||Insecure Ian||Life of the Party Lola||How the HECK do I socialize?! Harry 🙂|
|Depressed Darla (a little or alot)||Loyal Lynn||Codependent Clara||Prideful Penelope|
|Honest Hagar||Hopeless Hara||Talks too much Tommy||Inquisitive Anika|
|Confident Corina||Lonely Lois||Video game lover Vick||Controlling Kyle|
|Lover Lyle||Defensive Dana||Techy Timmy||Abusive Ann (doesn’t wants to change)|
|Religious Raul (Unhealthy Spirituality)||Hero, My Hero||Lazy Lenny||Lying Lad (doesn’t want to change)|
|My Authentic Self||Narcissistic Ned||Quiet Quinn||People-Pleaser Penny|
|Rec League Ricardo||Cheater Chap||Kind Calvin||My Authentic Self|
|Handyman Hank||Over-achiever Alex||Grieving Glen||Lying Len (wants to change)|
|Dramatic Diana||Unwanted Wyatt||OCD Orion (a little or alot)||See Yourself As Good Sees You Selah (Healthy Spirituality)|
|Wise Winona||In denial Ida||Judgemental Janet||Anxious Adam (Anxiety)|
Now, Write down the top 10-15 characters that you resonate with that encompass and create your individual, amazing, unique, and difficult personality. The character “Hero, My Hero’ I developed to represent someone who is choosing to be completely honest about their struggles and ask for help. For example, someone who identifies as struggling with Depression, Anxiety, Lying, Infidelity, Abuse, Addictions, Narcissism and wants to 100% come clean and be honest with themselves and get help. If this is you, you are my Hero and “Hero, My Hero” needs to be one of the Characters in your life bus.
There are 3 culprits, Stress, Anxiety, and Insecurity, that may cause a Wounded Character to get upset and feel like their buttons are being pushed. Consequently, when Stress, Anxiety, and Insecurity are present in our life, our wounded Characters will want to go from sitting in the back seat of our life bus as a passenger, to taking over and driving our bus. (and then we end up in the ditch!)
The Character, “My Authentic Self” is who you really are underneath all of your wounds and hurts. This Character, “My Authentic Self” represents the successful integration of all of your characters. When we have healed all of our wounds, it is the “My Authentic Self” Character is who is driving our life bus. The goal in therapy is to become aware of all of our characters within our personality and to become the “Best Version of Ourselves” by identifying when each of our wounded or difficult characters are driving our life bus and taking the necessary steps to heal that wounded character and walk that character back to its original seat in the passenger section of the bus.
Are you excited to read more!? I hope I have built a little anticipation and excitement for when my book is finished and please shout me a line if you can think of any characters that you would like me to add to “Who’s Driving Your Bus?” and maybe your Character will end up in the final revision. Wow, I think this is officially the longest blog post I have ever written.
Check back soon as I will be posting new blogs 2-3x week for the whole year of 2017. At least that’s what my New Years resolution was and now that I have said it, it looks I’ll just have to stick to it. 🙂
Kelly Johnson, MA, LPC
Copyright January, 2017